Archives for October 2013

So What’s Your Problem? Discerning the Root of the Fruit You Hate – by Anthony Hulsebus

Rejection Exposed frontThe article below is adapted from chapter one of the book Rejection Exposed: Understanding the Root and Fruit of Rejection by Anthony Hulsebus. I had the privilege to work with Anthony on this book and the workbook that goes with it, which contain very helpful and timely content to deal with the root of the problems in our lives.


Bad things happen. We all get hurt and we all hurt others.

We’re part victims and part villains. So what do we do about it?

I suggest we have missed the answer in two areas: first, we have focused on the fruit and not the root; and second, we have ignored the spiritual side of life.

Many of us struggle with the fruits of anger, fear, anxiety, addictions, lust, lying, cheating, stealing, depression, etc. We don’t like the bad fruit in our lives (or in the lives of others) and we try all kinds of things to fix our problems.

We try better or different friends, new hobbies, new clothes, new jobs, new location, therapy, and even religion, but we often don’t experience the change we want. We have failed to see the root of the problem, so we can never change the fruit.

Our issues become the proverbial weed in the sidewalk that we pull every week, but it just keeps growing back because we can’t get at the root! We constantly ask ourselves, “What is my problem?” or “What is their problem?”

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Avoid Trouble and Document Sources Now Using Footnotes or Endnotes

One of the biggest headaches you will experience as an author is trying to track down copyright information for quoting or referencing others’ resources after you’ve written your content. Avoid the pain. Save days of work later. Document as you go.

Documenting copyright information now will lessen stress later.

Documenting copyright information now will lessen stress later.

Jane Friedman has a great article on her blog called “When Do You Need to Secure Permissions?” I highly recommend taking a few minutes to read this article if you’re planning to use other’s materials in your book. Jane includes links to other resources if you need to dive deeper into copyrights and permissions.

Below I have listed the basic information you will need to have to give proper credit to a source. The Chicago Manual of Style Citation Quick Guide is a free resource that provides specific and more detailed examples. Save this link! It’ll come in handy. You don’t want to mess around with copyright infringement.

Remember, as you are doing research or when you run across information you’d like to include in your book or may need to reference later, document the following information that will be needed for footnotes or endnotes.

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How I Write with Eric T. Smith

The-Science-of-a-Woman ebookHow I Write – Interview with Eric T. Smith
Author of The Science of a Woman—The Art of Manhood

In 2012 I had the privilege of working with Eric T. Smith on his book The Science of a Woman—The Art of Manhood: Keys to the Glory of Marriage.

An excerpt from this book has received more views than any other posts on my website.

Below is an interview with Eric about how he writes. He provides some fantastic insights about how you can know when you are ready to write your book.


Why did you write your book?
I had a message vital to everyday life that wasn’t being said or was rarely being said. Many experiences and personal revelation all came together so that it finally dawned on me that there’s something wrong with the matrix—something wrong with the world. Just like Neo in the movie The Matrix, I started to see behind the scenes and like Neo I felt I had to do something about it.

What is the most common response to your book?
The most common response is, “You’ve put into words something that I’ve felt on the inside but have never heard said before.” Readers’ paradigms shift with every page, but it’s like their paradigm is shifting back to normal—back to something that’s as old as creation itself.

How did you write the book? What was your writing process?
Over the years I’ve tried to limit myself to say only what I actually understand. This discipline keeps me from having to revise some of my statements later. Writing becomes easy to the degree you know what you’re talking about.

Artesian wells have a natural pressure that produces a constant supply of water—so much that you don’t know what to do with it all. It’s a lot more work to get water to the surface from a conventional well. Proverbs 20:5 says that counsel or wisdom is like deep water and the wise person will draw it out. But there’s a difference between having to work hard to draw it out and having it right at the surface.

I write out of the overflow and I encourage every writer to write out of the overflow. Jesus said that out of the overflow of the heart the mouth speaks. Meaning that natural, fluid communication comes out of that which your heart is full of. The message in my book had pressure behind it. It was like I was pregnant with it, but I couldn’t write it down until it came to full term.

The message was inside of me for a couple of years developing and growing, but then it got to a point that it had to come out. So writing for me was like opening the valve of fire hose that had pressure on it. When I sat down to write, I didn’t experience any writer’s block at all.

If you limit yourself to writing only about what you know about, writing becomes much easier. Some write about things they’re interested in, but not what they’re fully acquainted with. So they struggle and the beginning and end of their book is helpful, but the middle ends up being filled with only their uncertain ponderings.

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Will Someone Steal My Writing? Copyright Basics for First-Time Authors

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Do you know what your copyright is?

One of the first questions I receive from first-time authors is How do I secure copyright for my book? Some authors seeking to work with me are extremely concerned that I or someone else may use or steal their work and passionately guard what they’ve written.

Copyright means simply a person’s right to copy. You as the author have that right and can give it to anyone or no one.

Copyright law states you have secured copyright the moment your work is created in tangible form.

Once you type your first word and save the document on your computer, you have copyright protection should anyone  try to take your content unjustly. Nothing else is required to secure copyright, although the Copyright Clearance Center also recommends registration. No authors I’ve worked with have chosen to pursue registration.

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Where to Find the Best Ideas and How to Keep Them

Take a break and find a place to chew on it.

Take a break and find a place to chew on it.

A common dream people have at night is of their teeth falling out. While I’ve never had this dream, I’ve heard it can be extremely unnerving.

In the book, What Your Dreams Are Telling You, author Cindy McGill and I explain that this type of dream is often telling the dreamer of his or her need to “chew” on something for a while—to get more information before making an important decision.

I think “chewing” or contemplation is a lost art. But it yields surprising results if we will take the time to “chew on it” and then document what we discover.

I discover the best ideas in two places: in the shower and in conversation with others.

Why the shower? Maybe it’s because I’m alone with minimal distraction and I have a chance to chew on things more deeply than surface observations.

Why in conversation with others? Because I’m usually contemplating details out loud in greater depth and in the process I find myself saying something I haven’t thought of before or with a different spin than I’ve considered.

How about you? Where do you find your best ideas?

This is good to know so when you need new ideas you know where to go. But in reality just about any setting can produce fresh ideas for you if you will chew—contemplate, ponder, meditate, consider more deeply.

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