How I Write with Eric T. Smith

The-Science-of-a-Woman ebookHow I Write – Interview with Eric T. Smith
Author of The Science of a Woman—The Art of Manhood

In 2012 I had the privilege of working with Eric T. Smith on his book The Science of a Woman—The Art of Manhood: Keys to the Glory of Marriage.

An excerpt from this book has received more views than any other posts on my website.

Below is an interview with Eric about how he writes. He provides some fantastic insights about how you can know when you are ready to write your book.


Why did you write your book?
I had a message vital to everyday life that wasn’t being said or was rarely being said. Many experiences and personal revelation all came together so that it finally dawned on me that there’s something wrong with the matrix—something wrong with the world. Just like Neo in the movie The Matrix, I started to see behind the scenes and like Neo I felt I had to do something about it.

What is the most common response to your book?
The most common response is, “You’ve put into words something that I’ve felt on the inside but have never heard said before.” Readers’ paradigms shift with every page, but it’s like their paradigm is shifting back to normal—back to something that’s as old as creation itself.

How did you write the book? What was your writing process?
Over the years I’ve tried to limit myself to say only what I actually understand. This discipline keeps me from having to revise some of my statements later. Writing becomes easy to the degree you know what you’re talking about.

Artesian wells have a natural pressure that produces a constant supply of water—so much that you don’t know what to do with it all. It’s a lot more work to get water to the surface from a conventional well. Proverbs 20:5 says that counsel or wisdom is like deep water and the wise person will draw it out. But there’s a difference between having to work hard to draw it out and having it right at the surface.

I write out of the overflow and I encourage every writer to write out of the overflow. Jesus said that out of the overflow of the heart the mouth speaks. Meaning that natural, fluid communication comes out of that which your heart is full of. The message in my book had pressure behind it. It was like I was pregnant with it, but I couldn’t write it down until it came to full term.

The message was inside of me for a couple of years developing and growing, but then it got to a point that it had to come out. So writing for me was like opening the valve of fire hose that had pressure on it. When I sat down to write, I didn’t experience any writer’s block at all.

If you limit yourself to writing only about what you know about, writing becomes much easier. Some write about things they’re interested in, but not what they’re fully acquainted with. So they struggle and the beginning and end of their book is helpful, but the middle ends up being filled with only their uncertain ponderings.

What did you find was the greatest hindrance to getting the book done?
Two things got in the way. One, my busy schedule. Two, I did a lot of second-guessing of my content trying to say it just right. I should have trusted that people would understand what I was saying and not continued to make little changes trying to make it perfect. I just needed to finish the book.

My advice to a first-time author is to write your book without an over-preoccupation with the little details and then let other people who are responsible for the details—like an editor—take care of them.

What do you feel is your greatest strength as a writer?
I think my greatest strength is concision—the ability to say a lot in a few words. I can communicate more in less time, which is very fitting for a culture with a short attention span. People read my book and their heart captures something their head doesn’t comprehend fully. So they’ll go back and reread a paragraph over and over. This leads them into meditating on the content, which changes how they think and gets into their heart.

Do you have future books planned?
Yes! A lot of books are in the line including books on family, church structure, and I’m excited to write fiction and children’s stories.

What is one tip or trick that has helped you?
The biggest tip is to realize that when you sit down to write, what you write is a fruit that has been developing in your life for a long time. You’ve taken the raw material of your life—the soil—and as a plant does you’ve turned it into fruit.

If you try to pull a peach from a tree before it’s ready, the branch will break. When the fruit is ready, the fruit will roll off into your hands. Some people don’t realize that what they have to say might not be fully developed yet. To release a book is like picking a ripe peach. When it’s not ready, you’ll find yourself pulling and pulling until the limb breaks.

Realize that you do have a genuine message, but there is a season when it comes to fruition. I’m fifty-three and what I’m saying now has been developing for years. I’ve had the patience not to write until it’s ripe fruit. People have been pounding me for years to write. But when the time was ready, writing was picking ripe fruit off a tree.

What was the greatest thing you learned while writing your book?
I learned the wisdom in self-publishing. I recommend new writers to self-publish. Friends of mine published books and it took 18 months to 2 years to see any profits. I saw profits the first week and now those friends are asking me how I did it.

Who should read this book?
Anyone in a relationship, has been in one, or plans to be in one, or those who are helping or counseling others.

Book Description

What if Marriage was Never Intended to be Hard Work?

In The Science of a Woman and the Art of Manhood, Eric Smith explores the mystery of the male/female relationship. He artfully weaves science, psychology, theology, and common sense into a beautiful tapestry that colorfully portrays covenant intimacy.

In this book you will discover…

  • The science behind sexual bonding
  • The forgotten art of manhood
  • The psychology and biology of female sexuality
  • Grace-based versus law-based relationships
  • The Biblical truth about divorce and remarriage
  • How to find your perfect match
  • And much more!

Buy the book here.

About the Author

Eric T. Smith and his wife Esther have years of experience counseling couples and singles, and have seen amazing results using the principles he presents in this book. They have been married for over twenty-five years and have four wonderful children.

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