You Can Be Happy Again – by Nancy James

3dHave you experienced a loss of a child or know someone who has? I recently had the privilege of working with Nancy James, author of the beautiful book Mourning to Morning: 90 Days of Healing after the Death of a Child. Published last week on Valentine’s Day, Mourning to Morning is a 90-day devotional filled with personal stories and practical “prescriptions for healing” that will help you or someone you love process pain, grief, and anger, and come into wholeness after tragedy. Below is Day 2 from the book. As of the publishing of this post, the book is $2 off the normal price here.

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Feeling Happy Again

Have you had this experience? You awake from a nice sleep, lying in bed, without a care in the world. Suddenly, the reality of your situation hits you! You remember that there is a big hole in your life—your child is not with you. Slowly, the pain seeps back into your heart. But for three seconds, you enjoyed happiness as you once knew it.

Those three seconds are your hope for the future! You won’t always feel the awful dread and pain that you feel now. You will feel happy again. I remember attending a welcome home party for a friend who had been a relief worker in Africa. She contracted malaria and came close to death but miraculously recovered. Three weeks after her recovery, her husband contracted the same disease and died! It was a big shock to everyone.

Several years had passed, she had remarried, and she came to the USA to celebrate. During the party, I couldn’t get over how her joy was overflowing with radiance and laughter. I felt like I was dying in the desert after the death of my son, and she had the water that I longed so desperately to enjoy. As I was walking out to the car, my heart was bleeding. I cried out to God, “Am I ever going to be happy like her? Please, I want to be happy again; I hate being sad.” When I called out to God in my desperation, I felt like a hand compressed the gaping hole in my heart.

I didn’t think it would be possible to be happy again, but I asked God anyway. He said, “If you ask for bread, you will not get a stone.” (See Matthew 7:9.). “Delight yourself in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart” (Psalm 37:4 NASB).

My desire was to be happy again. He also promised that if we have faith that is the size of a mustard seed, it could move mountains. (See Mark 11:23.) My mustard seed was my request to be whole again. Today I am more content, confident, peaceful, and faith-filled, than I ever was before my Tommy went to heaven.

I wrote this book so you could experience the same healing I experienced. I believe that if you try some of the prescriptions offered in this book, it will be a light leading you out of a dark tunnel. Ask God right now to be whole. Imagine yourself smiling and happy again.

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nancy james bio picAbout Nancy James

Nancy James and her husband, Tom, live in Houston, Texas, USA. They are parents to five children, two of whom are already in heaven. They like to surf at the beach, hunt hogs on their ranch, and watch classic movies. On the day you get to heaven, listen for Aretha and Whitney singing gospel, and you’ll find Nancy singing on the praise team! Connect with Nancy and her readers on Facebook at “Mourning to Morning by Nancy James.”

Praise for Mourning to Morning

Mourning to Morning is an amazing story of how a grieving mother in her brokenness found her only comfort in God’s grace and compassion. She speaks volumes of love with integrity to fill the void that is so wide. This book is soothing for the soul and it provides hope after despair. —Glenda Lenchanko, Honolulu, Hawaii

Nancy’s journey tugs at the heartstrings of anyone who has known loss, whether of a child, family member, or friend. Her writing is refreshing, honest, and open—as if you and a close friend were engaged in conversation about life and experiences that matter. I’m amazed at Nancy’s ability to tuck humor inside her stories. Each devotional is filled with heartfelt expression that has known pain, suffering, loss, anger, forgiveness, joy, peace, and ultimate healing through God. —Dana Lee Haines, Baylor University Ed.D.

Anyone who has experienced the loss of a child will benefit from reading this book on hope and healing. Nancy takes us from a place of confusion and utter despair to a place of trust and dependence on God. Nancy is open and shares honestly about grief and how to move on to what God has called you to after you have lost a child. —Dawn, Houston, Texas

Being a mother of five myself, I couldn’t imagine losing a child. Nancy doesn’t sugar coat her pain or her anger; it is real and it is raw. I gave a draft of her book to a friend of mine who was grieving the loss of her son. She had been searching for a book to comfort her and help her understand her emotions, but could not find one. She quickly devoured the words of comfort, understanding, and hope that Mourning to Morning offered her. —Debbie Roberts, Kona, Hawaii

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